The Trauma Heart: We Are Not Bad People Trying to Be Good, We Are Wounded People Trying to Heal PDF ebook Free
The Trauma Heart: We Are Not Bad People Trying to Be Good, We Are Wounded People Trying to Heal PDF Download
By Judy Crane (Author)
The majority of people addicted to substances or process addictions such as relationship disorders, eating disorders, self-harming behaviors, gambling or pornography are trauma survivors. Many people caught in the web of addiction don’t identify as trauma survivors until their personal, familial, intergenerational, and in-uterine history is exposed.
Unfortunately, relapse is inevitable without trauma resolution that can only take place once their history is exposed. It is only when that happens that the behavior disorders will finally make sense.
For almost 30 years Judy Crane has worked with clients and families who are in great pain due to destructive and dangerous behaviors. Families often believe that their loved one must be bad or defective, and the one struggling with the addiction not only believes it, too, but feels it to their core. The truth is, the whole family is embroiled in their own individual survival coping mechanisms―the addicted member is often the red flag indicating that the whole family needs healing.
In The Trauma Heart, Crane explores the many ways that life’s events impact each member of the family. She reveals the essence of trauma and addictions treatment through the stories, art, and assignments of former clients and the staff who worked with them, offering a snapshot of their pain and healing.
- Paperback:336 pages
- Publisher:HCI; 1 edition (June 27, 2017)
This is not a textbook; I want to make that clear. I have been writing this book for a long time, four to five years, in the midst of creating and directing a world-class trauma, post- traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), and addictions treatment center; speaking and teaching about trauma; and writing pieces as I was whirling around in my life and the world. Friends and colleagues joked about “the” book, demanded that it be written, and lovingly chiding me that it was a ghost book, taking far too long. The reality is this book wrote itself in the blood, snot, and tears of our beautiful alumni appropriately called Refugees. This is in honor of their completion of treatment at The Refuge, our treatment center in their forest. Their families and loved ones also shared their trauma histories, and many family members engaged in their own recovery process. These are the families that found real forgiveness, compassion, love, and intimacy, ensuring that the generations that follow are more capable of interrupting intergenerational maladaptive behaviors. One gentleman admitted to treatment seven years ago as a result of turmoil created by trauma and alcoholism in his life changed dramatically because of his willingness to reach deeply into his soul wound. As a result of his example, thirty-seven other Refugees can be traced to him: family, friends, children of friends, neighbors, and even ex-spouses. Twelve-step programs recommend that “it is through walking the walk” that people around us change, through “attraction, not promotion.” As we change, the people in our life feel safe to reach out for help because they want what we have. These folks come from all over the world. These “survivors” courageously offered their own stories among their peers, exposing their wounds as they guided our clients into their story. This book wrote itself in the voices of those who desperately want to heal.